How I spend my time during MCO : Dr Mawarni
Hi everyone! Today is the 22nd day of the Malaysia’s movement control order (MCO) to stop the spread of Covid19 virus. How is everyone doing so far?
I wish everyone is at the best of their physical and mental health. Throughout this difficult time, we do not have other choice but to stay positive and count our blessings instead of being in a state of despair and panicking.
In this blog, I just want to share how I spend my time during the days when I am not working. The majority of us complain that we lack of things to do.
As for me, I feel that there are days, I thrived. Thrive means that I felt really productive and feel in control. There are also days that I felt bored and did not achieve much.
I think it is pretty normal to feel this way as we are all human being and our mental state can fluctuates depending on the environment and how we tackle the situations in our lives.
My life theme for this year is consistency. I am glad that I managed to develop certain good habits like journalling consistently since the early of the year.
This personalized journal helps me to maintain my sanity during this MCO. It is a tool that I used to plan and review my day. It is not artistically decorative like other people’s bullet journal. However, I feel it gives me a sense of purpose. Something to look forward to everday.
So, as I plan my day, I usually divide my daily to-do-task into my roles. A typical day, I will categorized the task into myself, kids/family and home chores. I really value my solitude hours as that is when I get my privacy and full ME time. I only get my ME time about 2-3 hours that is in the morning before the kids wake up.
If you do not know what to do with your time, try and do this and force your brain to find things to do. I am sure you will find a long to-do list. It helps one to stay focus. As I tick the tasks that I have done, it gives me a sense of control and small pride. This will lead to more things get done. That is when I feel accomplished. If you cannot do everything in a day, it is okay, you can do it the next day. 😉
The most challenging part is to manage my kid’s daily activities. Once they are wide awake, that’s where my challenges begin. My 2 boys are 3 and 6 years old and they love to crave for my attention.
I usually fill their time with feeding, playing, joining the DIY crafts activities, finishing their online school homework and put them to sleep with bedtime stories. Sound simple isn’t it? It is not as simple as it sound. Trust me.
As a mum, I have days where I am guilty of letting them watch cartoons for long hours. (Yes, I felt like a horrible mum sometimes). I got to experience how tough it is to teach my own kids. It is indeed not easy to become a kindy school teacher. I really salute them.
I think parenting is the toughest job in the world. Dentistry is much easier. It reveals a lot of my mental state. The children is a test of my patience, empathy, compassion, ego and the list goes on.
I am grateful that I had the opportunity to bond with them one-to-one more than ever before since they were born. Though tough, I know they are sent to me from God for my own growth and undescribable joy too. By the look from their faces, I know they are really happy to stay at home and spend time with us, their parents.
Since the majority of the time is used to manage the house chores and deal with the kids, I do not put a lot of expectations for my personal growth like reading and work out. I usually allocate 15-30 minutes of reading and 30 minutes of home work out every alternate days. I also resort to audio learning. As I do my house chores, I listened to beneficial talks to keep me growing mentally and emotionally. This really helps me to boost my mood and stay productive.
Daily meditation and prayers had also give me the strength in being optimistic. There are some things in life that we cannot control. Surrendering our matters to God and let go is the key to peace and tranquility during this trial time. As Muslims, we can also take this opportunity to recite, memorize the Quran in welcoming the upcoming holy month, Ramadhan.
I pray that everyone is safe from this Covid19 pandemic and enjoy your bonding time with your family. This is the time where you can have real communication. Put your phone away and give your family members the full attention that they need.
Compare our predicament with the frontliners who are struggling to keep us safe from this deadly disease. I believe by being grateful and complain less, we save a lot of heart aches and unnecessary anxiety.
I would like to end this blog with a beautiful quotation by Viktor Frankl, “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves”. #stayhome #staysafe #stayproductive #staystrongMalaysia #flattenthecurve #fightcovid19